The Gender Decision

Some people have the patience to wait until their baby is born to find out the gender, patience is a virtue I don't exhibit well. I have been anxiously awaiting the gender reveal of my baby since I found out I'm pregnant. I can't imagine waiting another 6 months to know if I am having a boy or a girl, even waiting another week feels like a daunting task.

There are a bunch of reasons why I am OK with “ruining” the surprise. First of all, the surprise wont be ruined at all, I will actually just get my surprise early... It's kind of like opening a present on Christmas Eve, its still just as fun and exciting but you don't have to wait as long!

Another reason we came to this decision has to do with shopping, while there are a lot of gender neutral options out there for strollers, high chairs and big ticket items the clothes options are limited and lets face it, part of what so many women look forward to with their babies is choosing stylish outfits for their babies. I also want to decorate the nursery in a gender specific way.

I also want to put all the guessing to rest. Being pregnant seems to be an invitation for people to make your personal decisions and choices their business. I love hearing what people that are close to me think the baby is, I don’t mine my parents or in-laws talking about the baby being a girl or a boy. But I really don’t like people commenting on how they “know” the baby is a boy or a girl and I can't stand when people tell me how its better to have a boy or a girl. My husband and I left the choice of our babies gender up to fate and we will be happy with whatever gender our baby is. Yes, we may have an image of our ideal family but we know that God's plan for our lives is better than our ideal so we are trusting Him with out family.

Finally, I feel like the connection with my baby will be stronger after I know what gender he or she is. I know I will love my baby regardless of their gender but if I connect to my baby as a girl and then the baby is born male, it might make things a little uncomfortable. I know this isn't some life changing issue but to me its something to think about.

I am not going to have a 3D ultrasound down later in my pregnancy to see what my baby look like, I'll save that for D-day. I can wait for that surprise... it will be so much more reward to see flesh and blood instead of a grainy alien like image of my baby. To me, that will be the big surprise when my baby is born.

I really respect people that can wait, I think its great that so many people have the patients to wait for their baby to be born to find out their gender its just simply not for me.

We haven't decided how we will share the news with out family but we have decided that we will find out during the ultrasound, no cutting into a cake full of pink or blue frosting for us! I need answers and I need them now!